A Lifetime as a Woman

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Most of you have probably seen a video that has gone viral in the past few days. Actress Shoshana Roberts, wearing jeans and a t-shirt, silently wanders around New York City for a day secretly creating a video showing how many times she gets catcalls and in a couple instances, followed.

To me, some people’s reaction to the video, from the comments on the video, to commentary in articles, blogs, and on social media, is what is truly shocking.

Comments range from those saying she’s attractive, so it’s only natural she would get male attention, to those saying her clothes were provocative so she was asking for it. Others say the men were only paying her compliments (“is it so wrong to give people a compliment these days?”). Most of the latter arguments point to the man who told her “God bless you,” a nice gesture, ironically ignoring that this same man proceeded to follow her for five minutes.

There is a problem with these types of reactions, especially those that point to her appearance. People are not acknowledging that catcalls are disrespectful and explaining that women may not want this attention, especially in a city like New York where people largely tend to keep to themselves. In a lot of discussions I’ve seen people say she shouldn’t wear tight jeans, she should’ve put on a baggy sweater that day, or (and I wish I were joking) that she should learn to put on makeup in a way that makes her look less attractive.

I have brought this up with several of my friends and we all shared stories that were not so different from Shoshana’s experience. My veiled friends, both those who wear traditional abayas and those who prefer to follow current trends, have received this sort of negative attention regardless of how conservatively they’re dressed. The attention is due to the fact that they’re female, and it almost wouldn’t matter what they were wearing.

Borders do not limit this issue. While I mainly focus on the Middle East, it is important to keep in mind that women face gender inequality all over the world. Whether they’re walking down the streets of Amman or Manhattan, women need to be treated with dignity and respect – no matter what she may be wearing or no matter her physical appearance.

Until next time…

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Congratulations, Malala!

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Our own Queen Rania awards Malala with the “Leadership in Civil Society” award on September 25, 2013.

It’s been almost two years since I first wrote about Malala Yousafzai as one of the first kick-ass women featured on my blog. Although I’ve been off the radar for a while, this was an achievement I needed to recognize on my blog.

Today it was announced that Malala Yousafzai and Kailash Satyarthi won the Nobel Peace Prize for their work for child education and child rights. At only 17, Malala is the youngest ever recipient of the prize. She is also the first Pakistani to receive the peace prize.

The prize is also symbolic because it was jointly won by a Pakistani and an Indian, a Muslim and a Hindu. The Nobel committee said it was important, joining together two often sparring sides in a common struggle for education against extremism. Malala claimed she spoke to Satyarthi via phone, and that they agreed to work together for better opportunities for children. She hoped  their efforts would help their two countries strengthen their relationship and overcome their differences.

Malala is a spokesperson for girls’ right to education everywhere. The Nobel committee chairman acknowledged how important the winners’ efforts were, saying, “it is a prerequisite for peaceful global development that the rights of children and young people be respected. In conflict-ridden areas in particular, the violation of children leads to the continuation of violence from generation to generation.”

Two years ago, I wrote: “Malala is, and always will be, a pioneer in the realm of equal education, showing us all that knowledge is truly a powerful thing, able to defy and threaten even the most violent of terrorist organizations. Equally important is the fact that Malala’s story has empowered a generation fighting for its rights to stand up, and speak up.” This prize only further validates her struggle and will give fuel to her efforts to help girls everywhere earn an education.

Once again, here’s to you, Malala.

Until next time…

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Kick-Ass Woman of the Week: Majida

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One of the most popular comic strips in Jordan is that of Abu Mahjoob, a “Jordanian everyman” that provides commentary on political, social, and economic issues in a way people can relate to. Although Abu Mahjoob has been around for over 20 years now, women have never featured prominently in the comic, usually playing a secondary role or are portrayed in a negative light.

Enter today’s kick-ass woman of the week: Majida, a new Jordanian heroine. Technically, this kick-ass woman is not a real person; she’s created by graphic designer Ahmad Qatato (which might make this a kick-ass man of the week post, but I digress).

Majida is the feminist comic protagonist of Yawmiyat Majida, or Majida’s Diaries. Like Abu Mahjoob, Majida provides social commentary, but mainly focuses on issues that women face in Jordan’s male-dominated society. She represents the everyday struggles of Jordanian women in a funny and witty way. Breaking conventional portrayals of veiled women, she is strong, ambitious, and independent. Majida goes to school, experiences heartbreak, is an avid gamer, and enjoys binge-watching TV series in her spare time.

The topics discussed in the comics touch upon feminist issues such as the idea of “honor,” misogynistic language, harassment, and double standards in Jordanian society. For example, Majida’s mother encourages her university studies while simultaneously complaining she is stubborn and will not be a good housewife one day.

Majida’s Diaries is an honest portrayal of life as a woman living in an often-contradictory society that is modern in many ways but is still deeply entrenched in antiquated societal norms regarding women. Majida represents a new generation that is changing old beliefs about gender equality. The fact that the artist is an Arab man championing feminist ideas and discussions via his Facebook page also is a sign of the changes taking place. Qatato’s page brings people together to discuss gender roles that people often take for granted and go unchallenged. Through his work, Majida is challenging society’s perceptions of gender related societal norms, one comic strip at a time.

Check out Ahmad Qatato’s website here, and keep up with Majida’s adventures on his Facebook page, here.

Until next time…

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Kick-Ass Woman of the Week: Rama Chakaki

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Every time I turn on my television or open up Twitter and Facebook, I am inevitably faced with the dark headlines coming out of Gaza, Syria and Iraq. There are times when I find it hard to believe that there is any good news coming out of the Middle East. Whenever I need a little pick-me-up, I turn to one of my new favorite sites: BarakaBits. Its founder, Rama Chakaki, is today’s Kick-Ass Woman of the Week.

Rama is an entrepreneur making waves across the Middle East. With experience in computer science, management and communications, her goal is to promote collaboration, social good and technology to encourage youth and women in the Middle East to become social entrepreneurs. In 2013 she founded BarakaBits to give exposure to all the projects and initiatives in the region that were started by groups looking to make a difference.

BarakaBits is a genius little site that provides good news from the Middle East. Whether it’s women making a name for themselves in the business world, spotlights on artists in the region, Arabs helping other Arabs, or Gaza’s take on the Ice Bucket Challenge, I always feel uplifted and inspired when I visit the site.

BarakaBits is the only media venture that delivers exclusively good news. Sharing content from the region, it changed the narrative in the media to an intelligent, optimistic, and empowering one. Via BarakaBits and her other ventures, Rama provides the opportunity to shift the perception of the region into something more positive and uplifting while promoting greater social impact. Many of the stories are moving and feature ways people can participate in the dialogue or give back.

Anyone who is familiar with my blog knows that I aim to present an alternate outlook on the region that looks past the negativity and stereotypes presented in the media. Rama and the team at BarakaBits do this with everything they post, and I know they will have an amazing impact.

According to Rama, “There are solutions within our culture, religion, heritage, to all of the issues that we face today. We just have to be mindful and open to thinking about them.” I hope that more people look at the region’s problems from her point of view.

Until next time…

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#GazaSpeaks

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I don’t know about many of you guys, but I have had enough of the constant ridiculous attempts by Israel to justify civilian deaths in Gaza, not just during their latest operation. I think it is the duty of each of us to continue to stand for the rights of the Palestinians, the rights of those in Gaza -  the rights of those who cannot speak up. A cease-fire is currently in effect in Gaza. Whether it remains in place is questionable for now. Regardless, Gaza remains under a blockade, and continues to endure human rights violations day-after day. Our work is not done.

As a blogger, I have remained committed to bringing to the spotlight stories and issues that deserve attention, approaching subjects with a balanced human view. This is how I approach the topic of Gaza.

I would like to take this opportunity to announce the launch of my Tumblr page, #GazaSpeaks:
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The purpose of this Tumblr will be to share articles, thoughts, and reports from Gaza and the Palestinian territories. I hope it becomes a way to spread awareness, and stay on top of what’s going on, and how we can help. Please share it with your family, friends, fellow tweeps, and activists.

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Awesome Woman of the Week: Hanan Ashrawi

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Today’s Awesome Woman of the Week is Hanan Ashrawi, a PLO executive who recently gave an interview on ABC’s This Week.

Whenever conflict happens between Israel and Palestine, both sides arrive to the argument with guns blazing. I can understand, I know plenty of people on both sides of the argument and I can see points in both even if I don’t necessarily agree. However, it is important to take a step back and look at what is ultimately happening – the death of civilians, considered “collateral damage,” a dehumanizing term that tries to gloss over the fact that these people are ultimately mothers, fathers, and all too often, merely children.

In her interview, Ashrawi calls the conflict in Gaza a massacre, with war crimes committed daily. “I can’t understand how people sit back and say self-defense,” she said. “Against who? Against innocent civilians? Against more than 80 children who have been turned to bits?”

In response to those who claim that no nation would accept being targeted by rockets, as Israel has been, she retorts that no nation can accept being besieged, treated as prisoners and defenseless cannon fodder. Residential areas, people fleeing, and medical personnel are being targeted. Throughout it all, Ashrawi argues, they are being blamed for their own deaths in a systematic campaign to blame the victims.

Ashrawi says these people are expected to lie down and die quietly, and if they try to respond in any way they are not only labeled terrorists, but they also become legitimate targets. Four boys running on the beach, a family of 8 huddled in their home, and many of the other casualties of this conflict did not pose any such threat.

I’m not defending Hamas’ actions, and I don’t think Ashrawi would either. They know firing missiles at Israel will elicit a response, and they know that their weapons are no match for Israel’s defense systems. They know that more Palestinians will die than Israelis when it comes to war.

However, the way the war is going on is “inhuman and cruel and unacceptable,” according to Ashrawi. War is an ugly thing, but there has been too much civilian blood shed, from innocent Palestinians and Israelis. Ultimately, as Ashrawi says, these are all human beings. We should try and remind our friends and politicians of this.

Check out Ashrawi’s interview here.

Until next time… #SupportGaza

 

 

**Note: For the first time since I began writing my kick-a** women of the week series, Facebook has informed me that the post uses profane language not suitable to boost it with an advertisement. Let me point out this coincidentally happened for my discussion of Hanan Ashrawi and the Palestinian issue. (Yes that’s sarcasm)


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One World, One Game

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I’m not much of a sports fan, but when the World Cup comes around every four years that changes. When Jordan gets close to finally making it to the World Cup I also go a bit crazy. I was very hopeful that we even had a chance of beating Uruguay a few months back.

Growing up in Jordan, I remember feeling the energy change around me during the World Cup. For a few weeks it seemed like everyone united around their love of football. Watching the tournament filled us with excitement. My male cousins would watch the games then spend hours playing “ma3 al jeeran” (with the neighbors) and talk about how they would grow up to become famous footballers and bring Jordan to the World Cup one day. I didn’t share their dream. For one I couldn’t kick a ball without tripping over it and second, I am a girl. In the Arab world, it isn’t too often that girls grew up to become football players.

As part of a brilliant marketing campaign, Coca-Cola put out a video called “One World, One Game – Ramallah, Palestine Football.” The video shows two Palestinian girls, Dalal and Ahlam, who describe their love of football. Dalal, 15, is a proud Palestinian whose life, she says, revolves around football. Ahlam is 14 years old and dreams of playing football when she grows up instead of following in her mother’s footsteps of having a family at a young age.

In the video, their coach, Captain Yousef, explains that society generally limits the girls’ ability to go out, socialize, and play football. He explains that Ahlam and Dalal want to challenge this tradition with passion, and introduce their generation to the idea that girls can play football, in hopes of one day getting to the point where it becomes a normal activity for girls in their community and throughout Palestine.

Dalal and Ahlam received invitations from Coca-Cola to attend the 2014 World Cup in Brazil. The girls walked onto the pitch with other players featured in “One World, One Game” videos as flag bearers before the Germany v Portugal game on June 16th.

Ultimately the videos are a marketing campaign by Coca-Cola, but I love the positive message it spreads. This video and the others under the campaign display football as a vehicle for coming together and overcoming adversity.

Football is not only one of the world’s most beloved pastimes. It can be powerful in promoting social change and greater equality for women around the world. Girls like Dalal and Ahlam can change their society’s perception of women and girls. Doing this in Palestine, a part of the Arab World where opportunity is generally a rare thing to come by, is even more powerful.

Until next time…

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